The Frustration-Criticism Spiral

I have been reflecting on what it takes to make people feel safe around me, and how to avoid a common negative spiral.
I want to get better, be happier and improve my life (perhaps not unusual). I look around and identify what is not right or effective. I get frustrated about what is not changing or improving fast enough. I then get critical of whatever or whomever is in my way.

I call this the Frustration-Criticism Spiral, and I fall into it often. Unfortunately when I do, it makes everyone around me feel worse and less safe.

I have found 3 strategies work for myself and my clients
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Happy Whol-y Days

I treated myself to a Holiday. It was the first snow of the year here in Maine, and I wanted to get out and see my favorite spot—the Valley Trail on Beech Mountain. Luckily my wife Lisa was able to join me, so instead of “date night” this week, we had “date hike.”

Is it ok to take a vacation day in the middle of the week?
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Chasing Rainbows

Why do we give up on our dreams? Often we seem to close down and narrow our vision as we age, but maybe we don’t need to settle so much.
We moved to this island to follow a dream I had for 40 years… it has renewed my belief in the possible and the power of pursuing dreams.

When we restored our 1910 Victorian home, Lisa designed the gable so there would always be a rainbow overhead.
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